"Hi Jessica! "
" oh, wait, oh excuse me, you really look like a friend of mine , she used to have the same tint in her hair back when we were in that band"
Oh, no problem.
"you even like the same "thing" since i see on your shirt, i loved them/it , i was designing a new tattoo based on them/ that "
"Yeah, hey so, you are studying "insert wathever" here? "
yeah, i`m a freshman, etch etc.
The morning after
" hun, that was great, i guess i`m in luck that i look like Jessica, since that started it all"
-"Who the hell is Jessica?"
Boom cheeka bow wow
That or just learn to give a soft smile whilst saying something "whatever the feck you want". Should try it sometime, forget all that other bullcrap about don't do this don't do that blablabla
Spare the rod, spoil the child.
Every time I become single I appreciate it more. I can do whatever I want and don't have to worry about pleasing someone else. As satisfying as it is, I know that it tells me a couple things about myself and what I want out of a relationship. 1)I want to be with someone who does the same things I do when he/she does what they want. That way we can do whatever we want together. 2) The person who is good for me is pleased with me and where I'm at in life. Making them happy generally won't involve extraneous effort.
With such revelations, I can't help but to remain content with my bachelor's life. When I'm done figuring it out, I'll date for the long-term.
"Astronomy offers an aesthetic indulgence not duplicated in any other field. This is not an academic or hypothetical attraction and should require no apologies, for the beauty to be found in the skies has been universally appreciated for unrecorded centuries."
It is a very real fact that during the years i was lonely and looking the average person would judge me as weird because i was different. And weird here in NOT a good thing.
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Online Dating makes for a bittersweet mistress.
Good Luck, Jake.
Actually the whole puppy or dog in general thing isn't as crazy as it sounds. Dogs are always good conversation starters. Though hanging out with something like a Pitbull, Doberman or Rottweiler expecting to meet chicks is not as likely. But just walking your dog in a public place, it is a way to spark conversations with a stranger and if a girl may find you attractive its an icebreaker that otherwise wouldn't exist I'd say.
Though don't go get a dog expecting it as a tool to meet women, but if your out with your dog who knows. I've started up conversations the few times I take my dog to a public place and I'm not even trying to. Almost gets annoying if you do it too long haha.
Hot guys holding cute puppies" and "Hot guys and baby animals" exist. Even hot guys get hotter when baby animals are involved. Same works for more average dudes. And there's practically nothing more man related adorable than a guy holding a little kitten inside his jacket. I saw that happening while on a train and I could practically hear all the hearts melting in the carriage.
Okay though this is the wrong way to go with it
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Also, dogs are the perfect wingman.
I walk my cats on leashes to the parks. That gets a lot, lot of attention...for some reason. Last time I had a guy ask to take a pic of me and my cats "because you're so picturesque!" He only got away with that one because he had a girl with him, though.
One piece of advice I want to give, is to be careful with your choice of words, especially when you've first engaged someone. Now let's say she isn't assuming you have bad intentions. You just told her she has an "interesting" face. That could kind of be interpreted as complementing or insulting. She could think by interesting you mean beautiful, or that you mean strange looking. I'd avoid using general words that could be taken either way. I think it's better to say something like, "I noticed you were really pretty" Complements work well on most people. Also, don't bother apologizing for being creepy (that's a bit suspicious imo) you might want to say "I'm sorry for bothering you, I couldn't help but noticing..." etc. don't mention being creepy, or she may start thinking about it.
I actually remember one time, I was walking to class and this guy came up to me, talking about how he was going to throw a party or something. I distinctively remember him looking at me in the middle of a sentence and telling me I had really pretty eyes. Honestly, I would have gone to the party. Except he pretty much said all they were going to do was hang out and get wasted. If it had been food and video games, or something, I would have went and brought my friends. But, my point is, I distinctively remember the compliment and because it had come out of nowhere, it felt sincere and not like something creepy a suspicious man would say.
I just wanted to throw that first part out there because... well let's face it, just because you don't register as a threat to me doesn't mean I'm not going to be put off if I think you just called me funny looking, or something. :p
Oh, and all these times I said "you," I'm not talking about any of you specifically. Just my general thoughts haha.
My sketchbook: http://www.conceptart.org/forums/sho...d.php?t=218091
On another tangent about not judging a book by the cover. I found the whole Arnold affair/love child crap fascinating.
Here, a big muscly guy who looks like Frankenstein was hunting other women. The first thing that came out of the gossiping women's mouths was how did the woman he was having the child with looks. This goes on further with men trashing the woman's looks.
Ok she doesn't look good either, but god damn Arnold has butterface, he can look utterly creepy and scary. Personally I'm not into the over muscled guys either, (he looks like a leather belt, and so does Hulk Hogan).
It kinda goes into the status thing, guys judged by status and women judged by looks. :/
Hahaha... I go away for a long weekend and when I come back 2 pages have been added to this thread. I thought this thread would have died by now.
&Originally Posted by Darkmoon
First I got mad at the reactions, because I didn't understand where it was coming from, but even now that I do I would still go for a similar approach.
Partly because I think I'd be moderate successful, but mostly because I'm not afraid to get turned away.
The thing is that if the girl says "no thanks" and you reply "No problem, thanks anyway. Have a nice day." and return to your seat you kind of prove that you aren't the pushy stalking kind. Once the girl realizes that she can always come back to you and tell you she changed her mind. Chances are she's probably too embarrassed to do so. You could always give her your phone number after she says no and tell her to give you a call if she should change her mind, but I would probably end up in a situation where she would call and say "Hi, I'm the girl from the bus the other day" and I would answer "which one?".
Also, I don't think it's so much what you say, but how you say it.
Like I said, I'm a pretty big guy with a constantly mad looking face, so I've learned to make my image as un-hostile as possible, by crouching , smiling, being apologetic, ...
I would still stick with "interesting face" for a bunch of reasons:
- It's less "I think you are hot, sleep with me" and more "I don't know you, but I'd like to"
- Therefor it's less creepy
- It will most likely be taken as a compliment, but since it's not certain it will make the person curious
- There is the possibility of it being meant in a negative sense and therefor is more likely to provoke a reaction
Me: "You've got a pretty face"
Me: "So can I draw you?"
Her: "Well, I'd rather not, I don't really know you."
Me: "Okay, thanks anyway. Cheers."
Me: "You've got an interesting face."
Her: *wierd look* "How so interesting?"
Me: "Yeah, I don't know what it is exactly, your eyes for one thing are real eye-cathers. The make-up you did on them really suits you. You wouldn't happen to be a make-up artist, would you?"
Her: "No, I'm just a student/waitress/accountant/...."
Me: ask something witty about profession
Of course the conversation can take a 1000 different routes, but just to illustrate the point.
The idea is not so much to get the girl alone, but rather to get the girl to talk to you. Be it on the bus or later (since on the bus you are kind of pressed for time). I've learned that you need to be careful who you get interested in, there is all kinds of freaks out there men and women alike. Like this one wife that wanted her husband to get a vasectomy and then handed him the divorce papers when he was still recovering. Women can be even more savage than men if they want to be.
lol I don't know about the touching thing. Person I barely talked to touches me on the shoulder or arm I get creeped out. Male or Female.
Hell I know good friends that flip out when I touch them. Invades personal space.
maybe id just be creeped out in the bus situation. cause it it happened somewhere else like a sketch group, a class or maybe even a park, i wouldnt be so creeped out.
I guess im weird. But no one has ever asked to draw me before, im the only one doing the drawing, and usually, i dont even ask, i draw, then hand it off to them after, what they do with it, the ball is in their court as they say.
but i just remebered, I did use it as a sorta pick up line once. Skater boy at my school stood still forever, then as soon as i started drawing him, he wouldnt sit still. so i yelled from like 30 feet away to stand still for like 5 minutes. then he asked why, came over, i gave him the sketch and we ended up dating for a few months...
so i guess it works sometimes
You know whats funny, the whole I draw them without even asking them. I've done that too, in fact I used to do that alot. I had one person that just gave me the "what the hell are you doing constantly looking up at me type thing (actually a few but I don't count). Then others just came up and asked to see. A few even sat back down where they were acting casual til I finished haha.